What is NLP About?
What does NLP stand for?
Neuro Linguistic Programming
Neuro – the mind, the way we think, our mindset
Linguistic – language and it uses – both verbally and no verbally
Programming – what we do, patterns of behaviour and beliefs
What is NLP?
NLP was created by Richard Bandler and John Grinder in 1975 who began by developing models based on top communicators of the time. Their goal was to discover why certain people produced excellence and then to recreate models to allow other people that behaviour. Initially they studied the likes of Milton Eriksson, Fritz Perls and Virginia Satir but over the years many others have contributed to the growth of this field.
From these models grew a host of techniques for rapidly and effectively changing thoughts, behaviours and beliefs. It is important to realise that NLP is a set of guiding principles, attitudes and techniques about behaviour in real life. It is NOT a scientific theorem. It gives individuals choice; choice to choose their behaviours, emotional states and physical states of well-being by understanding how the mind works. It removes self-imposed limits.
So, what is NLP? NLP explores the relationship between how we think (neuro), how we communicate both verbally and non-verbally (linguistic) and our patterns of behaviour and emotion (programmes).
Essentially, NLP is how to use the language of the mind to consistently achieve specific and desired outcomes.
Still unsure as to the answer to the question, what is NLP? Let’s try and put this into language that we can all understand!
Imagine getting a mobile phone without any instructions. In fact mobile phones are a great example. These days mobile phones have a string of features that we do not ever use because 1. We didn’t understand the instructions 2. We didn’t read them 3. We didn’t get any instructions
Well let’s assume for example we didn’t receive any instructions. So we have a phone and we can figure out how to make a call and how to receive one, and with a bit of fiddling around we can teach ourselves how to store some numbers in the memory. But the rest of the features go unused purely because we didn’t know they were there.
Now think of your brain, which is a slightly more complex item. We were born without an instruction manual. The only instructions we received were hearsay, in other words, our parents, teachers and peers conditioned us. So no real instructions and certainly not a comprehensive set. A bit like having that mobile telephone and just knowing how to send a call.
Imagine getting into a car for the first time with no instructions. Reckon you would get far? Not a chance! Probably crash and burn if you ever got the thing started! So without an instruction manual we are likely to fail. Hold on, I hear you say, we haven’t got a manual for the brain so we are likely to fail? Yes, that’s the idea! With no manual we are likely to fail first time and then after that we learn through our experiences, hopefully! This is why when we attempt even the simplest task for the first time we often meet with failure.
So what’s all this got to do with NLP? Quite simply NLP studies the structure of how humans think and experience the world. Now this structure is something quite complex and subjective and does not always lend itself to precise formula. What it does do is to lend itself to models of how the mind works and from these models NLP has derived techniques for easily and rapidly changing thoughts, beliefs and behaviours
The models were created not by asking these talented people how they did something but more from understanding the underlying structure of how they represent the beliefs and attitudes and strategies within their minds when they are completing a particular task. This is why much of NLP in therapy is content free.
Another example would be to understand how a resourceful person in a particular situation perceives the world through their 5 senses, and once we have done this, it is easy to teach others how to do the same thing.
For example a phobia is an irrational fear. A person phobic about spiders will often picture the spider being particularly large and very close to them. Now someone who is not concerned about spiders will have a representation of a small creature that doesn’t do anyone any harm and is insignificant to them (far away and small). In NLP we would ask the question “if someone cannot be concerned about spiders to the extent they are insignificant then why can’t the other person be the same”? So we would use a technique with the phobic person so that when they think of a spider they represent it to themselves in a similar way to the person who is not concerned about the little creatures i.e. at a reasonable distance and a proportionate size. Thus we have modelled the phobic persons behaviour on the person who is not concerned about spiders.
What you will find about NLP is that it is results orientated and flexible. We are not interested in the slightest about what SHOULD work only what ACTUALLY works. Too many people do things and fail because they feel what they are doing should be the right thing. If it doesn’t work, in NLP, we would go a different route, and keep trying different ways until it works. Remember in NLP there is no failure, only feedback and flexibility is the name of the game. In NLP we are only interested in the results and giving people what they truly want from life.
Where many people go wrong in their understanding of NLP is that NLP is not just a pile of techniques . People with a lack of understanding of the subject think that is what it is – and it isn’t! Richard Bandler was quoted as saying that “NLP is an attitude of curiosity and a willingness to experiment and THAT has left behind a trail of techniques.” This is the key. Without the NLP mindset any technique is worthless and it is the mindset that is critical and that is precisely how we teach it. Get the mindset and sure, we have some processes that work incredibly well and create long and lasting change in individuals.
One of the major benefits when we use NLP in therapy is that we are not interested in the what – we are interested in the how! What do I mean by that? Quite simply, to affect change in an individual we do not need to know the ‘content’ or the details of any negative experience because we deal solely in the ‘how’ they do whatever it is they are doing and, by understanding that, we can assist them to make changes.
By understanding how a human being processes information and their individual experiences and relating that to the final behaviour, it is possible to assist someone to change their thought processes thus resulting in a different behaviour. This is also a key component. The understanding that behaviour is the outcome of a multitude of thought processes that occur at the unconscious level. To change a behaviour, we have to change what is driving it. Unlike many forms of therapy where the individual is encouraged to change ‘consciously’ (which is incredibly hard) we focus on the drivers to the behaviour and change those to change the final outcome.
Another filter of the unconscious mind are values and our work with these eminates from Clare Graves’s work back in the 1950s. In fact one of the key assumptions in the world of NLP comes from the works of Alfred Korzybsky and his book “Science and Sanity” (1933) and that is “The Map is not the territory” or put simply, the words we use are not the event that they describe – just a perception of it.
So, you can see, NLP draws on much from traditional psychology and adds to it. It adds processes that assist people to change and to communicate better.
So, to answer the original question, what is NLP, we can say that NLP provides you with an instruction manual of how the mind works and introduces you to your unconscious mind. It provides you with techniques that will support change in either your life or others and will give you a map of how to REALLY achieve success in your life. It will empower you with the art of TRUE communication that will allow you to understand and to influence your peers. It will allow you to make real changes easily in the way you work and live and provide you with the manual to fully achieving your potential.